He was trying to be cute, but I was taken aback by his negative energy. Who wants to be around that kind of negativity? I didn't bother explaining myself to him. It just wasn't worth it. And as you can expect, we never developed a rhythm and the podcast didn't go so smoothly.
Finding a rhythm with people is important, especially if you're performing or brainstorming or looking for good conversation.
And what’s a great way to get a rhythm going? The golden rule of improv is to always say "yes, and..." to accept and build upon the ideas presented. This creates a positive and collaborative environment, whether you like or agree with what's been said or not! So, no matter what the other person on stage says, the response must always be “yes, and...”
Isn’t that true?
The same rule can also be applied to our daily lives, especially when it comes to the people we surround ourselves with. For example, imagine you're brainstorming with your team on a new project. Someone suggests an idea that you're not entirely sold on, but instead of shutting it down, you say "yes, and..." to build up from the bad idea. By doing this, you're able to turn a mediocre idea into something great that the entire team can get behind. And that person doesn't feel personally shamed or attacked.
When we surround ourselves with successful, positive people who embody the "yes, and..." mentality, we create an environment that encourages growth, inspiration, and innovation. Being around people who are always open to new ideas and who embrace challenges can help us adopt a similar mindset and push ourselves to achieve our goals. On the other hand, when we surround ourselves with negative people who shut down our ideas and discourage us, we create a toxic environment that can hinder our progress and stifle our potential. Take note of how these people and their responses affect you... it's draining!
Instead, seek out people who are enthusiastic, supportive, and excited about your crazy ideas, and who are always looking for ways to grow and improve.
Does that make sense?
I’m not saying to never give constructive feedback, but when you’re early in the development phase I strongly encourage you to surround yourself with “yes, and...” people. Surround yourself with people who embody that mentality and watch as you soar to new heights in all areas of your life.
I challenge you – the next time you hear a crazy or wild idea – start your response with “yes, and...”